Server gives advice in open letter to newlyweds who refused to leave tip

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A restaurant server's open letter to a newlywed couple who left her a "tip," and not the good kind, is going viral.

The server who posted the letter, Jessica Morris, is actually a newly wed herself.

She married her husband, Travis, who is also a server, Oct. 9.

Jessica said she was waiting on a couple celebrating their honeymoon Nov. 7.

She dropped the check at their table and when she returned, the couple was gone and had left her a note in the place of a tip.

“He’s my husband, find your own. Good luck :)

Jessica posted an open letter on Facebook to the couple when she got home.

She signed the note, “The woman you offended by thinking so lowly of, that I would attempt to flirt with a man who is with his wife.”

Her post has since been deleted. Before it was removed, it had been shared over 50,000 times.

Below is the text from Jessica's Facebook post.

Warning: Post below contains adult language that may not be suitable for all audiences.


I don't typically talk about work this way, but this needs to be shown/addressed. Mainly because it's hysterical but partially because I'm offended lol

Anywho, today I had a table of 4 come in. Two couples. The one told me they were there to celebrate part of their honeymoon, which I replied "oh I just got married last month, congratulations." I assumed they heard me, and we proceeded with the whole "what can I get you" yada yada yada.

Well, as anyone SHOULD know, waitressing is a personable job. To make money you have to be nice, and show you personality. As all of you should know, since you know me, I'm a personable, sarcastic a**hole in the nicest way possible. So ofcourse I let that shine in my job, and at EVERY table.

So, this lady (Jenny) and her husband place their order and she asks me what my name is. I tell her "Jessica" she responds with, "oh, we don't really like that name. Can we call you Jess" and I laughed and said "yeah, you can call me anything you want. I'll even respond with a**hole." In which her husband laughs and proceeds to call me that throughout the whole experience we had as server and guests.

I assumed everything was fine, because they were laughing and having a good time. Well I cash out their check, tell them have a good night and to come back. When I come back from singing "happy birthday" to another guest, the couple and company have left, and on one ticket they tipped me $4, well Jenny decided I did not deserve a monetary tip, so she wrote me a nice note, with a $0 tip saying "he's my husband, find your own. Good luck. :) "
And I want to add, Jenny stole my one pen, which she knew was my last because I had apologized that I only had the one to share between the two tickets at the table.

So, Dear Jenny,
I would like you to know, the server that was in the section across from mine, that I kept talking to and checking on throughout the time of you sitting at my table IS MY HUSBAND. Which I found on my own, and looks better than yours. Also, I would like you to know that I'm sorry MY HUSBAND treated me to a cruise for my honeymoon and not a restaurant. As well as, MY HUSBAND would never let me feel so insecure that I would feel the need to write such a terrible note to a server and make them feel the way you have.
So Jenny, here's a life tip for you from me, your insecurity as a woman is heartbreaking. Have pride in yourself and your relationship with YOUR husband to where you don't need to put another down to bring yourself up. Especially a server who lives off her tips and needs them to help her husband pay bills. Also, Jenny, I hope you like the pen, because it's my present to you. One NEWLYWED to another.

P.S - my husband said you can sit in his section next time that way you won't have to be so worried about your husband "flirting" with a server :). Maybe you'll see his ring a little better than you saw mine.

Signed, Jessica
The woman you offended by thinking so lowly of, that I would attempt to flirt with a man who is with his wife.


  • susan

    Jessica you are a class act!! I hope you and your husband have many happy years together!!! As for the real a**hole I hope she has the pen leak on her and her new hubby’s clothes and always feels insecure in her marriage so that they are both miserable!!!

    • Chris

      Jessica stinks! If she is your idea of a “class act,” you have trashy standards. What kind of twit tells customers that she’ll answer to a–hole? That alone makes it obvious she is trailer trash at best. And why did she keep talking to and checking on her husband (a fellow waiter) while she was tending to the table in question? She herself says that she did this. I would not want a waitress who didn’t keep her mind on her job, which is NOT chatting with her husband during work hours! Jessica should get fired for stinking up the joint.


        Dude, maybe her husband was on his break and seated in her area eating. If so she had every right to “chat him up” while working! Grow ip and get a waiting tables job and see how man tips you collect!

  • Sam

    From her description of her job it sounds like she works at Hooters. What newlywed husband takes his new wife to Hooters? lol

  • Michelle

    Honey, if you think so little of yourself and the establishment that pays you to do a job that you go around telling people to call you a**hole maybe you got what you deserved. I don’t like sarcastic, smart mouthed servers when I go out to eat so I would have talked to your manager. In life we teach people how to treat us. If you degrade yourself don’t be surprised when other people do the same.

  • jdwii

    Am i the only one who thinks it was highly rude for her to put down the husband? I have yet to find anything bad that he did.

    • messycrazyhappylife

      How do you know? Were you there? You are making a comment based on only one side of the story AND she seems awfully defensive…..

  • Muffy

    All I can say, is that girl needs to go ahead and secure a divorce lawyer (she obviously can’t trust her husband) and a good therapist (for her obvious insecurities and low self-esteem).

  • Nina

    I’ve been on both the server side as well as customer.. I never flirted or assumed it was the man who was paying. You don’t engage in any behavior that would make people question your intentions. I can tell you however over the years, I’ve seen where women at hotel front desks, waitresses and other industries have openly flirted with my bf. From saying Good Morning, Evening, hello only to him, smiling at him, giggling & acknowledging only him as I’m right there. Last year, I sat & watched a young waitress with a lowcut, tight shirt lean against my bf’s shoulder & over his chair as he was deciding on a drink. No, this wasn’t Hooters. It was your local restaurant. BTW I am not insecure or ugly so we can get rid of that theory. It’s not only rude and unprofessional, it’s also asking for little or no tip if a woman is present. It’s just people skills & good business practice to treat all customers the same with no underlying intention for a better tip. KEEP IT CLEAN & PROFESSIONAL AND YOU’LL GET YOUR TIP. END OF STORY.

  • Louise Robertson

    So why post this? Since when do people think it is their job to expose or shame people for bad decision? How much attention does this server want? I hope the server is enjoying her fame – since that is what she is after.

  • Marcy Potter

    The reason “they” don’t like the name Jessica is probably that the husband has an ex with that name. With a wife as insecure as this one, he has probably already figured out that life will be easier if he just doesn’t like whatever she doesn’t like.

  • Ashley

    Maybe her husband shouldn’t have kept calling her THAT name. That’s the person I would be talking to instead of the waitress. But she didn’t have to turn to fb because she was offended and didn’t get a monetary gift. You’re both married and two different people. Grow up, ladies.

  • Not Another Bob

    Tipping is beyond dumb. If your business model requires you short-change servers, so you can lower your prices, it’s a fail business model.

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