Baltimore mom who slapped son: He was embarrassing himself

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By Steve Almasy


(CNN) — The Baltimore mother who slapped her son several times and pulled him out of a protest told CNN on Wednesday she wasn’t concerned that she might be embarrassing her son.

“Not at all,” Toya Graham told CNN’s “Anderson Cooper 360˚” in an interview that aired Wednesday night. “He was embarrassing himself by wearing that mask and that hoodie and doing what he was doing.”

The video (see below) of Graham yanking her son, Michael Singleton, and slapping him with a right hand as CNN affiliate WMAR recorded has led to the Internet calling Graham #motheroftheyear. Many people have praised the unemployed, single mother of six for going to the Mondawmin Mall and getting her son away from the escalating violence.

Graham told Cooper that she saw her son with a brick in his hand, and she lost control of her emotions and told him to drop it.

"I did (get emotional). You know, once he threw that rock down I said, 'You weren't brought up like this,' " Graham said.

He's not a perfect child, but he's also not a thug, she said.

The 16-year-old boy said he understood that his mother was there looking out for him.

"She didn't want me to get in trouble (with the) law. She didn't want me to be like another Freddie Gray," he said, referring to the 25-year-old man who died of a severe spinal injury after being arrested by Baltimore police.

Gray's death has sparked daily protests over police brutality. There have also been riots and looting that prompted the city to put a curfew into effect.

He had a brick in hand

Graham said her son told her the night before the violence at the mall that something was up. She told him then and the next morning not to go. He swore to her he wouldn't.

Her motherly sense kicked in when she heard school had closed early and the mall was shutting down, too.

She went to the mall and focused on the teens who were tossing rocks and bricks. There he was, in sweatpants she recognized. They made eye contact.

He had a brick in his hand, and that set her off.

"I was so angry with him that he had made a decision to do some harm to the police officers," she said.

She yelled at him to put the brick down. And then the camera captured her memorable smackdown. She noticed the TV crew but didn't think anything of it. And she didn't care.

"I wasn't there to be recorded. I was there to get my child," she said.

Tough love

Tameka Brown, one of Graham's five daughters, told CNN on Tuesday it wasn't that hard for her mom to spot her 16-year-old half-brother.

"She knows her son and picked him out. Even with the mask on, she knew," Brown said.

Brown said her mother is always looking out for her children.

"She has always been tough and knows where we are at," Brown said.

Graham said she tries to steer her son away from potential trouble and troublemakers.

"As long as I have breath in my body I will always try to do right by Michael and show him what's going on out in society doesn't have to be you," she told CNN.

Graham has one fan in police Commissioner Anthony Batts, who thanked her in remarks to the media on Monday night.

"And if you saw in one scene, you had one mother who grabbed their child who had a hood on his head and she started smacking him on the head because she was so embarrassed," he said. "I wish I had more parents that took charge of their kids out there tonight."

CNN's Elise Miller and AnneClaire Stapleton contributed to this report.

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  • bob

    “Half-brother.” So she has kids by at least 2 different fathers, neither of whom is in the picture.

    And she wonders why he behaves like that.

    • Cari Dickenson

      Bob, I have 5 kids and two dads, 3 kids by my first husband, and two kids who’s father passed away. Who are you to pass any kind of judgment?!?! You don’t know her situation…. And it is people like you that are part of the problem. This single mom… Put all those other parents married included to shame. She made a stand and said I will not let my son be some petty thug… and she made she he knew it! Just the fact of her having no father in the home does NOT mean her kids will be thugs or criminals. In fact I think this show of her values says it all…. if you have kids I sure do wonder what they will turn out like… OHH and not one of my 5 kids is a thug… and the 22 yr old is married with a daughter… my 19 yr old graduated High school and has decided to be a nurse and works and goes to school for it… and I have three younger boys still at home. So don’t sit behind a computer screen and act all high and mighty… When you don’t have the right to. My sons dad is dead.. There is no dad to raise them… The older kids dad refuses to do a thing for them and I am lucky if he sends a support check for the 15 yr old… SO who’s fault is that!? Not mine. We don’t get to force them to be “in the picture” Some do and some don’t.. I would rather all my children had a father in their lives… But life did not work out that way. BTW the 15 yr olds dad is an electrician… and is raising his other two children…


        CNN anchor Don Lemon says more that 72% of African-American births are out of wedlock. I think that is what Bob is referring to …. and no, Cari, I and Bob are not the same individual.

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