‘Out of love’: Husband reportedly posts explanation on Facebook before killing himself, his wife

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DOVER, N.H. — A couple was found dead inside a New Hampshire hospital after the husband apparently shot his wife and then himself shortly after outlining his plans in a Facebook post.

Police responded to gunshots inside a critical care room at Wentworth-Douglass Hospital in Dover just after 6 a.m. on Tuesday.

Mark Lavoie shot his wife, Kathy, “out of love,” Lavoie’s sister told the Associated Press.

Hospital officials said the facility was never on lockdown because the shooting was isolated to the private room.

Lavoie, 50, explained himself in a post on his Facebook page several minutes before the shooting:

“I want to start off by saying this is going to be officially ruled a murder/suicide when in all actuality it is a double suicide … My baby was trying to escape the bi-polar demons that have been swirling around in her brain since childhood and now because of my selfishness in dialing 911 she is experiencing the only thing she feared more than her illness … life support on a respirator.”

In the post, Lavoie gave instructions with what to do with his possessions and 401(k).

“I am more than happy to sacrifice my life to fix my doing and join her spirit in a happier place,” Lavoie wrote in the Facebook post. “Please don’t mourn for me, my spirit will be in a much better place with my soul mate; you may even catch a glimpse of us from time to time.”

Lavoie ended his Facebook post with a final farewell:

“Love you all, peace out!”

9 comments

  • Trace

    Stop glorifying these POS’s. The losers need to be condemned and ostracized. Let God decide their fate and hopefully it will deter a few on earth.

    • Trish

      Sounds like she was already ‘dead’ and likely tried to kill herself – which is why he called 911. She was being kept in a state of being she never wanted, he felt responsible for her limbo and set out to rectify his wrong. When it’s you or yours in this situation, you can be the judge. There is no dishonor in death – we all die, it’s the only certainty in our reality as human beings. He didn’t ‘kill her’ so much as prevent her being kept alive against her personal will. Not many people have living wills, do you? If you don’t, it makes it really difficult for your next of kin to make appropriate end of life decisions for you – particularly in cases where mental illness is suspected. She was gone, she was tormented, she was in a position she had confided to her husband that she considered a fate worse than death. He felt responsible for it, because there wasn’t enough of her left to bring back after the EMT’s responded to his 911 call.

      I applaud him for loving her enough to ensure she wasn’t tortured against her will in a medical facility, and for choosing to go with her.

  • Big "G"

    I was the primary care provider for my wife of almost 38 years as she struggled with MS and was confined to a wheel chair for her last 15 years or soDoing so I experienced the entire range of emotions that spring from doubt and discouragement. I would never presume to judge this primary care provide; only his maker can do that. I would only hope and pray that you never have to walk in his shoes and watch your sweetheart slip away no matter what the reason. Fortunately, my wife was an angel and at peace with her circumstances. Me; not so much. Don’t Judge! It’s not in your job description.

  • bob

    The man stuck by his wife as she dealt with bi-polar issues for DECADES, and now we’re supposed to judge him?

    I don’t think this choice was the right one under the circumstances. Such decisions shouldn’t be made in the moment, under extreme emotional stress. He should have cooled off and explored options.

    However, I give him a TON of credit for what he’d already done and been through. How many men would have still been around at this point? Very few.

    Get a Living Will in writing. Don’t make your significant other face this sort of dilemma. Your death is inevitable. Stop denying it, and start preparing for it.

  • bob

    Note: If you read the full Facebook post, she DID have a Living Will but the doctors said they couldn’t honor it because “depression is not an irreversible condition.” (Therefore, according to their logic, her being on life support following a suicide attempt was merely a side-effect.)

    Sometimes when we leave people with no choice this is the sort of thing that happens.

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