Shopper attacked after telling mom to quiet screaming child; assault was caught on camera

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COLMA, Calif. — A California woman was attacked outside a Nordstrom Rack store after telling a mother to quiet her screaming child.

Natalie Bree Hajek-Richardson told KPIX she was punched in the face after telling the mother to quiet down her child, who was throwing a tantrum inside the store.

Hajek-Richardson was checking out when the child, under 6 years old, began throwing a loud tantrum.

“It didn’t bother me that the child was throwing the tantrum, but the volume was very loud, it was hurting my ears,” she said.

Hajek-Richardson said she asked the child’s mother to quiet the child down.

“She came to the side of me and told me not to tell her child what to do. And I told her that I didn’t ask your child what to do, I asked you very nicely to calm down your child just a little bit,” she said.

Hajek-Richardson then apparently got into a heated exchange with the mother.

Hajek-Richardson said she then told the mom off. “I told her to go to hell and she told me I’ll see you there,” she said.

When Hajek-Richardson left the store, the mother apparently followed her to her car where the two again exchanged words.

“She was asking me, ‘Where’d you tell me to go?’ So I repeated again what I said to her, and I told her that I told her to go to hell,” she said.

The surveillance video shows the woman, wearing a red shirt, walking toward Hajek-Richardson prior to the attack.

Hajek-Richardson claims she was punched twice in the face. Police are still working to identify the woman in the video.

33 comments

  • desistiny

    Yeah even though the mom shouldnt have used violence. The other lady should’ve known better. Dont you think she wouldve if she couldve…i mean im a mom running on lil o no sleep and it wouldve been real hard not to react the same way. You never know whats going on in someone elses world . No mom wants their kid to throw tantrums. And if we let them its probably to quit giving in to their negative behavior. Seriously over stepped their boundaries! !!

    • Cheryl

      And if you learn to discipline your children, aka… Spank them!!!! They won’t do that in public and if they do you just have to give them a look and they stop. People need to stop being scared of there children. It’s pathetic

      • Nice Try

        Cheryl spanking your child doesn’t always work to prevent them from doing something bad. I believe in spanking and my 4 year old daughter still throws tantrums in the store. All children are different and you can give advise all you want but different methods don’t work for every child. My nephew does not care if he gets spanked he will go right back to misbehaving. Taking his toys away doesn’t work, putting him in the corner doesn’t work. Sometimes they just want to throw fits and there is nothing you can do about it. Especially when it comes to little girls. That woman had absolutely no business saying anything to that mother when it comes to her child. She should have just ignored it and left and thanked God that she didn’t have to put up with that screaming at home. People like that really make me angry because they have no idea if the child has an ear ache or tummy ache. Get over yourselves and stop giving mothers of screaming children dirty looks in the store, sometimes there is nothing you can do.

    • Sara

      Parenting styles are different for each parent but most people know that properly handling a tantrum is to ignore it . I find it exceptionally inappropriate for some person without kids trying to act like I should be controlling my children this way . Hey guess what buddy , we live in a world where people are loud and obnoxious and this is not exclusive to children , just because you beleieved that dominance over a smaller person than yourself should get you your way doesn’t mean you have the right to tell a parent what to do with their child . For sure there are places like expensive department stores and restaraunts that children are really out of place , but this woman was at a discount store in the check out aisle trying to leave , she wasn’t doing anything wrong . Until of course she punched the lady , that is also totally unacceptable

  • Robert Kelley

    FOX 13 news Salt Lake City
    You need to find a new reporter or someone who can spell – or – someone who knows how to use spell-check!

    “( Shopper attacked after telling mom to quiet screaming child; assault was caught on camera )”

    The word quiet means “shhh” – what was suppose to be written in this statement was quit – which means to “stop”

  • jennifer

    My child has autism and has meltdowns she is non verbal so u dont know everyone’s situation so i think people shouldn’t be so quick to judge

    • mothersquid

      SANCHO – you are a wise person. There’s no amount of sleep deprivation to justify violent physical contact, no matter what words were spoken. It’s disturbing that so many people think the bully moms actions were even remotely justified. My child was never spanked, and when he became fussy in public, I removed him to a place where he wouldn’t infringe on other peoples right to peace & quiet, out of respect for others. He has grown up to be a fine man, who respects strangers, with an impeccable scholastic & behavioural record; how do you think that 6 year old will turn out? Children learn what they live.

      The young lady that was attacked may have been having a worse day than the bully mom. That was certainly the case AFTER meeting them….

      • Mr. Mckinney

        The ellipsis consists of three evenly spaced dots (periods) with spaces between the ellipsis and surrounding letters or other marks. You used a total of five. You made a mistake. I really hope that you’re not a teacher!

  • tarrebug

    My take on this is that it’s not polite to let a child throw a tantrum in a public area, it’s better to take them outside until they can behave. At the same time though it’s also not polite to ask a parent to quiet down their child, as you cant really force a child to be quiet, they don’t come with remote controls, and sometimes giving them time to cool off away from other people is not possible. If a child is bothering you in a store setting, you always have the choice to leave the area. Once they started in on the rude comments and physical violence, all sense of propriety has been abandoned…

  • ShirlSumm (@ShirlSumm)

    My children never got a chance to throw a tantrum in a store. I made it clear when they looked like they were going to pitch a fit that we would leave the store immediately and would have a talk in the car. They knew I meant it. There was no “please” be quiet. BS. It was “Quiet down right now or we’re leaving.”

  • Dominica Hagelberg

    I dunno, I see both sides of this one. I have a toddler and let me just say if we could quiet our children during a tantrum, we would, obviously! It’s not fun when your kid freaks out in front of everyone. That said, I would probably exchange words, but never would I punch someone in the face for telling me what to do with my child. Or would I? lol

  • DCE

    Violence isn’t the answer, but she shouldn’t have butted in. She could have been patient for a few more minutes.

  • Lynne

    Remove the child from the story entirely because the reason for the attack doesn’t matter. An adult woman attacking another is childish, shows lack of self control and points to some type of serious personal problem. She chose to follow and attack because of her inability to control her anger. I don’t know if the other woman should have said anything and have no clue how loud the child was, but adults need to learn how to control their behavior the same as they expect their children to behave. Neither woman seemed to show much good sense or maturity.

  • Amaranth

    What amazes me is this lady was in the check out line. She couldn’t have been patient for a couple minutes then been outta there?
    No, violence isn’t right but the lady was a “buttinski”. If the mother of the tantrum child was in line too, she may have just been praying for speed to get finished and out. Once in line no parent wants to take kid out…too close to being done and gone.

  • elmo

    First, a 6 year old is hardly a “toddler”.

    A screaming child that is allowed to dis-respect others tells me this about the “family”:
    “Hi. We are low life trailer trash. You must put up with us. We have RIGHTS! Someday my child will become a criminal and continue violating your precious society”

    I hope they find the attacker and make her pay restitution to the victim. I hope the victim carries a piece for future encounters with low lifes.

  • Kitty

    Mothers need to get something straight… I do not love your child.
    The rest of the world does not love your child either.
    And the reason why we’re staring at you is not because we’re acknowledging some sort of mutual understanding that kids will be kids but rather we want to kill you for letting your brat ruin our dinner.
    Or our plane ride.
    Or trip to the grocery store.
    Or the other adult-oriented establishments you’ve unilaterally decided will serve as an extension of your toddler’s playpen because you lack the fortitude to properly discipline them, in public and at home.
    And we know you don’t discipline them at home because you don’t possess “the look.” If you had “the look,” you wouldn’t need to say “sit down” a thousand times.
    If you had “the look,” you wouldn’t need to say much of anything at all. But this nonverbal cue needs to be introduced early and reinforced diligently with consequences for transgressions, just like potty training.
    Children are not the center of the universe. The sooner their parents make them understand that, the better off we all will be.
    This is the part of child-rearing people don’t like to discuss, because socially, it’s not OK to dislike kids. The ugly truth is it’s the spineless parents who parade their undisciplined children around like royalty that make people dislike kids.
    Parents who expect complete strangers to just deal with it are not doing anyone, including their children, any favors. They are actually making things worse. Not only are their children allowed to interrupt social events and settings when they are young, but they often grow into disruptive forces in the classrooms later.

  • Sam

    I know it is really hard for others, but I have a child with autism that tantrums. I can’t tell you how many strangers have screamed at my child or started to lecture me about how to be a better parent. It is really sad people feel it is there place to do so. Get a life and leave strangers and their children alone.

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